What is Self-Pity?

What you need to know to discern and overcome self-pity in your life

What is self-pity and how can you discern it and overcome it in your life? Find real solutions from the Bible for recovery in God. (Quote about self-pity)Do your circumstances or our symptoms seem so overwhelming that you can’t see past them? Do you feel hopeless and oppressed and like no one cares or understands what you’re going through? Do you feel like you can’t move forward in your Overcomer’s Journey, like you’ve hit a wall? Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “If only this person or circumstance would change, then my life would be better.”? It could be that self-pity is influencing your life. Self-pity has the potential to prevent you from moving forward in your Overcomers’ Journey and keeps you from receiving your healing in God. We have good news, it is not you, and you can overcome self-pity!

It’s time to take your life back

It is essential to recognize the spirit of self-pity to move forward in your Overcomer’s Journey. Dr. Henry W. Wright often said that self-pity is the superglue of hell that binds you to your past (find his complete teaching on Self-Pity HERE). It’s an unhealthy infatuation with one’s past traumas and current adverse circumstances.

In addition, self-pity projects past failures into one’s future. As a result, a person begins to feel helpless and hopeless and becomes a perpetual victim of their circumstances. It may cause a person to lose confidence and self-esteem and focus only on bad things and negativity in their lives. They become entangled in their own pity party and often embrace feelings of depression.

Self-pity is self-indulgent

As its name implies, self-pity is a significant player in the kingdom of self; it’s a form of self-idolatry. It may cause a person to become self-indulgent, dwelling so much on their own issues that they become unaware of other people’s needs and struggles around them. It may falsely present itself as self-compassion and even demands others’ compassion. And although one may believe that they need others’ sympathy to feel better, that neediness can never be satisfied.

Self-pity may cause a person to control others out of fear and is often only one step away from outbursts of anger and rage. It may play on other people’s love in an effort to manipulate them into catering to their needs and is very capable of destroying relationships. A person under self-pity’s influence will often say things like, “You just don’t understand.” or “You just don’t care about me.”

Overcoming self-pity requires facing reality

A person who struggles with self-pity will often be quick to blame others or circumstances. They may feel like a perpetual victim. It also makes it very difficult to take personal responsibility for their actions or life.

No matter how difficult it may feel to face it, a person needs to recognize this spirit’s influence in their lives and come out of agreement with it. Recognition and repentance may take a significant amount of humility and courage to face. Although self-pity may act small and insignificant, it’s often an issue deeply rooted in pride and in one’s identity. A person may have been trained in it their whole life, or it may even have tracked down through their generations.

Real solutions for overcoming self-pity

If you recognize that self-pity is influencing your life, it’s time to get back into the race as an overcomer, trusting in God that He will be faithful to complete the good work which He has started in you. Don’t let self-pity steal your faith or your joy any longer. In Christ we are more than conquerors!

Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? [shall] tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? … 37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. 38 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, 39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:35-39 KJV

If you recognize the influence of self-pity in your life, today is the day of salvation! You can repent before God for agreeing with the spirit of self-pity and its lies. And then you can command it to leave you alone in Jesus’ name.

A safe place to recognize and deal with self-pity

At the For My Life® Retreat, we offer powerful truth from God’s Word that will help you overthrow the stronghold of self-pity in your life. Self-pity is one of the discernment teachings that we present In the For My Life Retreat at Be in Health®. When God helps you remove self-pity from your life, it will become easier to move forward in your Overcomers’ Journey.

Here are a few key points that this teaching addresses:

-Why do I feel stuck in my Overcomer’s Journey?

-Why can’t I get past my feelings and symptoms?

-How does self-pity present itself as a false comforter?

-What is the link between self-pity and victimization?

-Is it possible to be addicted to self-pity?

-What is the link between self-pity and depression?

-How can self-pity sabotage relationships?

-How can I overcome self-pity in my life?

This teaching will answer these questions and more!

Would you like to learn more about what self-pity is and the Spiritual Roots of Disease®?

In addition to the Self-Pity teaching, we present over twenty other life-changing classes in the For My Life Retreat. These teachings will lead you to the truth you need to find healing in God for your spirit, soul, and body.

The Be in Health Team invites you to join us on this life-changing journey of healing and restoration that we call the Overcomers’ Journey. We want to help you regain your life, overthrow the enemy’s works in the world, and be a successful overcomer. We are dedicated to fulfilling the vision and mission to establish generations of overcomers that God charged Dr. Henry W. Wright and Pastor Donna Wright with when they first began the ministry of Be in Health over 30 years ago.

Maybe it’s time to take some time out for your life

The For My life Retreat is a 5-day, intensive healing retreat. It is a safe place to take time out for your life to be renewed in your mind, spirit, and body by the truth from God’s Word.

There is also a For My Life Online Course available, where you can participate with us from the comfort of your own home.

Be blessed and enjoy your Overcomers’ Journey!

The Be in Health Team

Find out more about our For My Life Retreats!


Here is a small clip from the For My Life Online Self-Pity Teaching:

This article is part of the For My Life Sound Bite Series.

Check out these articles to learn more about the other teachings we offer and get more insights into spiritual discernment, the power of God’s love, and how He can heal you and help you become an overcomer!

Foundational Insights – This is the core foundational teaching that encompasses the heart and mission of the For My Life Retreat. On this foundation, the whole Retreat is built.

The Father’s Love – The number one most important thing for every person’s Overcomers’ Journey is to be restored to Father God’s Love. Without a relationship and trust with the Father, it is very difficult to move forward as an Overcomer.

8 Rs to Freedom – 8 steps to recognize and overcome the enemy’s influence in your life.

7 Steps to Sin – Discover the enemy’s strategy to lead you to sin and learn how to stop him at his game.

Godly Order – God has established an order of authority in His Kingdom. Discover how Godly Order will help restore you to peace in God and in your life.

Spirit World Realities – Learn how the enemy’s kingdom can operate in the earth and the Biblical origins of our spiritual enemy. This understanding will demystify Satan and his kingdom and help you defeat the fear of evil.

Separation – Learn how to recognize the enemy’s strategy to divide and destroy relationships and get smarter than him. You can recognize and hate the sin but still love the person just like God does for us.

Pathways of Thought – How can a spiritual kingdom influence our thoughts? Discover the pathway of thought from the spiritual through thoughts, feelings, and emotions to its effect on our physical health.

Disease Profiles – Discover the possible spiritual roots that can lead to specific disease classes.

Water Baptism– Water Baptism is one of the sacraments of our faith. Discover why Water Baptism is an essential step in your Overcomers’ Journey.

Blocks to Healing – The Bible tells us that there are certain things that we can agree with that will get in the way of healing. Learn how to recognize and overcome these spiritual blocks to healing. And discover the surprising #1 Block to Healing.

Accusation – Accusation is a tool that the enemy uses to twist the truth and lead us into bondage to sin. Learn how to recognize and overcome the spirit of accusation in your life.

Bitterness – Learn the seven steps of bitterness, including unforgiveness, anger, violence, and murder. With these insights, you will be able to defeat this stronghold and operate in God’s forgiveness and peace.

Envy and Jealousy – Discover how Envy and Jealousy keep your eyes on the object of your desire to prevent you from trusting God and receiving His best for you.

Rejection – Learn how to overcome rejection in your life.

Occultism – Understanding Occultism and why we need to be free from it.

Unloving – Recognize if you are not giving and receiving love to God, yourself, and others. And learn how to walk in love as God intended.

Addictions – Learn what the Bible says about overcoming addictions. God wants to help us be free, and receive our comfort and identity from Him.

Fear – Fear is something that most of us have had to face at some point in our lives. Discover where Fear comes from, how to recognize it, and how to overcome it!

Walk OutWe have the freedom to walk out of things that have once bound us. Learn what is walk out, why it is important, and how to do it.


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