My position is for all victims to be removed immediately until someone decides where their treasure is.
For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also. Luke 12:34
This is true whether the victim is an friend, husband, wife or the child. We are not going to play games with victimization. The tragedy is just too high a price to pay. If we had taken a stand at this level against victimization a long time ago, we would not have the tragedies and post traumatic issues it is causing today. You cannot go back into a victimization situation in the name of love. It is codependent. It is further victimization. It is built-in guilt and you will not be able to have your peace. No one is spiritually strong enough to be a door mat for this type of thing and survive it for long. Remember my definition of codependency? Calling evil good in the name of love.
If God had made us able to handle evil, then we would enjoy it. We would enjoy murder, strife and jealousy. The reason evil behaviors and situations hurt so badly is because He did not create us to be victimized. God did not design this to be a part of our lives. This is why it is foreign to us and why it hurts so badly.
When dealing with abuse in a marriage, I tell the couple to either get it together or get out of it because everything else is fraud and sin. Be hot, be cold, but do not stay in it if you are only lukewarm. The Lord talked about His Church and His relationship with it as His wife:
I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot, So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth. Revelation 3:15-16
This concept brings everybody to a place of decision and it makes each party confess the answer to the question, “Where is your treasure?” Is the wife a husband’s treasure? If I tell him to get it together or get out of it, he is going to have to make up his mind. The Bible says, as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Proverbs 23:7
It is the same for the wife; either “get it together,” or “get out of it.” I am not condoning divorce; I am also not condoning fraud. I am against fraud. Marriage is a sacramental union, or it is a fraud. God has called us to truth, not to fraudulent relationships.
Many marriages have been saved because I have taken this stand. I have had people come to me later and say, “Thank you for taking this stand, because we wouldn’t have survived it otherwise.” Doesn’t God bring us to this kind of decision? He said, Choose what you will have this day: blessings or cursing, life or death.
I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may life: Deuteronomy 30:19
I teach the Ten Commands of successful relationships. Your relationship with God and others should be this way:
1. Communicate 6. Communicate
2. Communicate 7. Communicate
3. Communicate 8. Communicate
4. Communicate 9. Communicate
5. Repent 10. Repent
If we would do this with God and with each other, we could turn the world upside down, first beginning in our own lives, then in our families, our churches, our governments, our societies and the world.
Dr. Henry W. Wright, A More Excellent Way (page 45-46)